There is only one happiness in life - to love and to be loved  - George Sand 

And…….

The power is from within, but we cannot receive it unless we give it -  Charles Haanel

Yesterday we began to crack The Love Code by looking at the relationship you have with yourself.  I have to tell you, that part is like knowing the code itself without the key to unlock the door to love.   

George Sand sagely pointed that the only happiness in life is to love and be loved. And that’s true.  Without love even winning the lottery is a short-lived pleasure. With no one who really loves you to share your good fortune, there are only so many luxury items you can spoil yourself with in an effort to love yourself.    

Actually, there are three parts to cracking the code.  

The first is learning how to be in relationship with yourself. The second is understanding what Charles Haanel says, that whilst the power (of love) is within, there is no way to receive love unless you give it.  And you know you can only give to others what you feel for yourself, so you had better feel as good as you can about yourself, otherwise what you have to give will only be as much as you currently give to yourself.  And for people who don’ t feel that good about themselves, that may not be much.  The third part is implied in both the above quotes.  It’s about being able to receive love.  And here’s where the ‘fun’ begins. 

If you haven’t really experienced receiving love in a way that felt like love to you, or you had a little but not a lot of love, or you didn’t feel understood, listened to or supported, or perhaps you were abandoned or rejected at some time, how do you know how to receive love.  Could be that you would find a really loving partner overwhelming and have a sense of being smothered.  Maybe the warmth and affection that you thought you craved begins to feel oppressive and claustrophobic after time and you find yourself withdrawing or pushing your partner away. 

These are quite strong examples but you can see where I am going with this.  

Cracking the Love Code is about learning how to receive love as well as give it.  Some people find the giving part easy, but if you cannot receive, then your love bank will deplete until you find yourself emotionally bankrupt.  Learning to accept and receive love means that you have to think of yourself as loveable and worthy of love.   

Are you worth loving? If the answer is yes, then the next question to dwell on is ‘how do I allow myself to receive love’?  Take some time to think about this and come up with as many ways as you can find.  If you can’t come up with at least four ways, then the first question is one to address. 

If your intention is to give and receive love right now and yet even with your best intention, your relationship is just not working, or you cannot find that special person to love, call me and let me help you crack your own love code.  There is a key to every relationship and a code to crack open any heart to love – let me help you find it. 

With Love  

Francine

PS:

Today’s music for these cold nights in is: Boney James the sexiest saxophonist with ‘Butter’ from the Send One Your Love album and ‘Hold on Tight’ and ‘Don’t let Me Be Lonely Tonight’ from the same album. Mmmmm.