It’s not ‘the season to be merry’ any more. The lawyers are calling me to help them with very angry men whose women have handed them their ‘resignation’ as wives. If you are an angry man (you know who you are), you are not alone. I have heard from three guys in the past few days who are sharing your shoes. I know you are hurting and if you are a more mature man, its doubly frustrating because you’ve probably worked hard most of your life to achieve the financial stability you have now and its not so easy to recoup the older you get. So I am going to tell it as it is because if I don’t you are all going to lose your shirts unecessarily.

The truth is that the courts are not interested in your feelings. Your wives will get ‘at least’ half of everything and there is nothing you can do about that - its the law. By being spiteful or difficult you are only wasting your own money so its you who will get less in the end. The worse you behave, the more your wife’s solicitors will respond and the higher the bills become. Once you really understand that this is the bottom line, however much you hate it and however much you cry that its not fair, the quicker you will have the choice whether to waste your own money by fighting or take your lawyer’s advice on what you are entitled to.

Lets get brutally honest here. Your wife wants a divorce at all costs, so even if you fight her, you are still the loser because you are losing her and there is nothing you can do about that. However by fighting her, you lose double. Not only have you lost your wife, you will also lose your hard earned money too. She is going to get half of whatever there is (no question about that) and if its less than she could have because you insist on making it difficult, then its the price she pays for leaving. She knows full well that you will fight her and that may be part of the reason she is leaving you. She now wants to be in control of her own life and realises that the money is the last vestige of control you have. However, I can tell you that she really doesnt care if she loses money as a result of you being difficult, because what she wants to lose most is you! So why not take my advice, stop the unnecessary fighting - because the courts dont care and actually neither does your wife. Retain your dignity and move forward. Ok, thats the ‘not so good news’.

Here’s the ‘much better news’. Some statistics say that there are currently 7 women to evey one man. I have yet to meet a man who has worked with me who hasn’t found himself in huge, enormous and incredible demand by women once he gets himself out there. You dont even have to have hair!! A good pulse will suffice. Joking aside, believe me. There is life after divorce. Don’t make divorce more painful than it has already been. Grab back your dignity with both hands and hold on to your money. You are going to need it for all those dinner dates, fabulous holidays and frivolous fun you’ll be out enjoying.

And, if you are just cant imagine that happening and you are out there struggling with this and trying to make sense of what happened and how it happened; give me a call and I will let you know exactly how to make this whole process a lot easier than you are making it right now.

Love to you
Francine