You know what’s amazing to me?

That so many men and women spend time in relationships that sap their energy. Instead of raising our levels of aliveness, these relationships are a constant drain on us and leave us running on empty.

So why is it so hard to leave?

Is it because we fear being alone, that we will never be loved again, that we are afraid we won’t be able to manage financially, that we are too old to leave or our biological clocks are ticking? Whatever the reason, if we stay without being reenergized for long enough, our relationship batteries will go flat and die.

Angela, Steph and Matthew all have partners who are depleting them. These are serious ‘energy draining relationships’ where they are doing all the giving without any getting. The truth is that they are all partly responsible for feeling this way. Giving without getting anything back in return comes with a health warning.

If you resonate with any of the above (that’s if you still have the energy to resonate!), then it’s time to call time on being sucked dry.

The very first thing I want you to do is get back your own personal power. It’s very simple, you are going to fill up your own energy tank and keep it filled.

Each day this week, I have been up at 7am and out for wonderful 45 minute walk by 7.30. The sun has been shining, the autumn leaves are exquisitely beautiful and I have even gotten over my fear of the cows. I arrive home refreshed and full of energy for the day and I cannot wait to get out there again in the morning.

This simple energy raising exercise has many benefits. It gives you time to think about your life and your own needs. You can ask yourself questions like “what do I need from this person in my life”? ‘What does this person provide me with”, “What do I provide this person with?” “If this person was not in my life what would be missing?”

Taking the time to ask yourself these questions gives you the opportunity to become consciously aware of what keeps you in your relationship. And there is something about being in nature that connects you more easily to your true self.

If you discover that any of your answers contain a fear factor, (like the examples above), you’ll have found the reason why you feel drained most of the time.

Love and fear are not great bedmates.

Your fears may be subtle ones and when we work together, it’s easy for me to uncover these hidden gremlins and create strategies to address them.
I know you know if this applies to you or not. If it does then get in touch and let me help you get your energy back and hopefully even revitalize your relationship.

First and foremost though, here’s the first thing to do. Get up early and get outside. Even if you don’ t feel like it, I can promise you that a walk on a windy autumn day is better than an extra hour in bed. Make the most of these gorgeous light mornings and get some extra vitamin D while you can. The more energy you can create for yourself, the more clarity you will have. The more clarity you have the easier it will be to say no to the ‘energy drainers’ in your life.

Till tomorrow,

Love Francine