Well, I’ve just got back from the Lewes Wellness Fest. (Pronounced Lew-is, not Loos as I thought when I stopped to ask for instructions to the town hall.)
Actually, you could really call it the Lewes Love Fest as virtually every body attending and exhibiting totally loved their work and all their work was such a contribution that Love was In the Air for two full days.
I gave my talk today – a whistle stop hour of practical advice about How to Find the Love You Want and Keep the Love You Find. It was a huge success and thank you to everyone who attended and gave me such wonderful feedback – its such a pleasure for me to know the work makes such a difference to people’s lives.
So inspired by the whole event, today’s blog is about loving what you do and keeping it as your focus when the rest of your life is in turmoil.
No one wants to go through the trauma that ending a relationship can present. And, to escape unscathed in mind or body from its demise is not easy (though if you work with me entirely possible). So to have a passion, or work that you love and can focus on, can keep you buoyant through the difficult times.
The truth is that we experience what we think about all day long. So if you are dwelling on the fear of financial instability, or the worry of who will spend more time with the kids, or the impact of being single and a whole host of other concerns, you’ll attract more of what you don’t want because those thoughts have the ability to define the quality of your life on a minute by minute basis and cause you pain. No doubt about it.
The only way to get out of your own way and keep the thoughts at bay is to get into action!
Doing the work you love to do or making time for the passion you love to pursue are ‘doing’ activities that will focus your mind and, at the same time, show you how much of a contribution you are to others, so confirming your worth at a time when your self-worth may be at all time low.
Everyone at Lewes had either turned their passion into their work or they had been working at their passion for years and years. I was one of them and it struck me how very lucky we all were to have people approach us interested in, or needing our services.
Wherever you are emotionally right now, just take a moment to remember what you love to do in your life. Make sure its something that will provide others with an experience that will enhance their lives in someway. Maybe you take fabulous photographs for your own pleasure. Go out there and take photos for people who would really appreciate them. Maybe you are a closet chef. Go cook for people who would love to be fed a decent meal. Maybe you are a gardner, a jewellery maker, a builder, someone who can put their hand to anything from hanging wallpaper to building a balcony, whatever it is, just do it. All and any of it will take your focus away from your fears and reiterate your worth to those with whom you share your passion.
Even if your day is less than fulfilling, at least look to see who benefits from just being around you and how you really do make a difference to those people in your life on a daily basis.
Getting over the end of your relationship by getting on with your life is the best way to heal your heart. Many of you are going into your first full year without your ex-partner. Everything you do this year will create new memories for you and ease you into your new life. Grab it with both hands and make sure you make some fabulous memories – as they say in the classics “this is not a dress rehearsal” and you are playing on new stage. Go for it and as usual, if you’d like some tried and tested strategies proven to support you as you ‘rebuild you’, then call me and in the words of Winston Churchill, Let Us Move Forward Together”!
Lots of Love
Francine
PS Take a look at my home page and scroll down for details of ‘What Every Woman Should Know About Successful Relationships’. This is an incredible, not to be missed, One Day workshop designed for Ladies on Saturday 19th March in London. (Men, there’s one on its way for you pretty soon!).
