There’s something so special about the Rapport of Real Love. If you have had it with someone, you will know it immediately. It’s when you match your energy with the other person and connect in a way that is nameless. Sometimes it’s a silent rapport – just being still with the person – no words needed, just that silent comfortable understanding which can feel so peaceful inside you. Sometimes its noisy rapport, laughing and banter that is so natural, never forced or contrived. And sometimes there’s physical rapport – the intimate rapport which fits and connects and you know that both of you are totally in tune.
The Rapport of Real Love happens in so many ways everyday of our lives with the people who are closest to us. For some of us that could be our partners, our children, our close friends and family even our pets if we have them.
Today I experienced the rapport of real love with my bestest and longest time girlfriend. We have always had a crazy, funny and fabulous rapport. And today was especially nutty, and it really illustrates what I mean by the Rapport of Real Love.
We took a long walk through the deer park. It was gorgeous and sunny and we were, as usual, in deep conversation, alternately listening and laughing and learning from each other and opening our hearts and our minds.
As we got back to the car, I opened the door but my friend was standing on the edge of the pavement and it did not look like she was going to get into the car. So without any thought, I went to join her on the edge of the pavement. I looked down at her shoes to see where her feet were placed and placed my own feet on the edge of the kerb just like hers. She looked at me as if I was completely mad and asked me what I was doing. I looked at her and said ‘well I’m doing what you are doing?’ and she asked ‘why?’ and I said ‘because I thought that’s what we were doing now, just standing on the edge of the kerb with our feet over the edge’.
It sounds nuts doesn’t it? I had no idea why she was standing there, it just felt right to automatically go and do what she was doing. To quite unconsciously get into rapport with her. A rapport that totally trusted that if she wanted to stand on the edge of the pavement, I would be happy to do it with her until she, or I, decided to do something else. Of course we laughed at how silly it looked for two grown women (dressed as Getty’s – because it was so cold) to be perched side by side on the edge of the kerb, but the truth is that genuine heartfelt and connected rapport is like that. It’s so easy that nothing stands in the way of the connection. There is no hidden agenda and no questioning either. Its simply a case of ‘wherever you are, I want to stand next to you’.
Later my gorgeous friend dropped a card through my letterbox. It’s one of those wonderful StoryPeople cards. They are simply my most favourite cards and you can find them at www.storypeople.com On the front there is a picture of two odd looking characters holding a piece of string that connects them both. It reads:
‘You’re the strangest
person I ever met, she said.
& I said
you too
& we decided we’d
know each other for a long time’.
That’s what its like for people for have learned the rapport of real love. Its strange and wonderful and it lasts forever. If you have it, don’t let it go.
Love Francine
