Oh my goodness, Ashley Cole has been getting positive vibes from Cheryl and has allegedly asked her out on a date!
Does this mean that Cheryl would actually go back to the cheating husband that Ashley Cole turned out to be? Is she mad in the head or is it simply an Unfinished Relationship?
Be honest. How many of us have absolutely and categorically declared ‘its over – no, really, I mean it – it’s O.V.E.R. ‘ only to sneak in a quick text or ‘innocent’ email behind our well-meaning friends and families backs. We’ve sworn we’ll move on, made all the right moves, travelled to foreign countries and still there’s that nagging thought, those ‘miss you’ nights where you fantasize and dream of all the good stuff and what might have been if only…
And you run through in your mind exactly how you’d be next time if you had the chance to do it all over again.
Is this what an ‘Unfinished Relationship’ looks like? The truth is that if both of you contact each other when the whole world (or at least your world) believes its over, and both of you clearly want to keep some kind of connection going, then its just not over – yet!
Often time’s couples go back and forth over several years trying hard to make the relationship work. And who are we to judge? I know I have done it, and virtually all my clients who do leave long-term relationships in the end, have certainly done it. You cannot walk away until you have squeezed every last drop out of it, uncovered every stone and looked at it from every angle. Breaking up is hard to do – and how!
Sometimes, working with the right Relationship Coach (that would be me of course!) can pull a relationship back from the brink of extinction. With the commitment from both that they will do what it takes to heal their relationship, many relationships can be rebuilt.
And sometimes when there has been so much betrayal, dishonesty and a whole host of other nails in the relationship coffin, one or the other bails out and admits defeat.
Eventually, after a great deal of heart searching and pain on top of pain something clicks. And generally it’s because the other person’s behavior repeats itself or we see clearly that way they behave is just not acceptable to us anymore. They do not treat us as we want to be treated; they don’t share our morals; they don’t look after themselves adequately; they have issues and challenges that we cannot heal for them.
We finally make a distinction and that distinction is ‘I love you but I cannot live with you’.
So, here is my offer to you. If you are going through the process of an ‘Unfinished Relationship’, its very hard to cope with the emotions of it by yourself. It’s hard to make sense of what keeps you in this no mans land of ‘not fully in’ it but ‘not completely out’. Why not go ahead and call me for a chat because I have some incredibly effective strategies to help you speed up the process, lessen the pain and help you make the right decision going forward.
Lots of Love
Francine
