Yesterday on a beautiful beach in St Tropez something happened that virtually every woman alive will relate to. A good looking man and a good looking woman had a fight because the good looking man turned his head and body 360 degrees to stare at another woman! Is that not the most shameful thing you have ever read? No, I didn’t think so. But much hurt is caused by an action that is seemingly thoughtless and then blatant in its approach. So ladies, why do men do this?

Firstly, most males, who still have ‘lead in their pencils’ regardless of age, still believe they are could be attractive to virtually most woman and that there is still the possibility of relaxing in a hot tub with 5 super models looking after their every need. Truly. When this thought dies, a little of them dies with it. This does not mean that they don’t care deeply for you. Men tend to vote with their feet (as many of women have discovered). The simple version is that if they want to be with you, they stick around. (Even during separations). But if they truly don’t want to be with you they leave. In lots of ways men are more rational when it comes to endings and less likely to hang on in there hoping it will all work itself out. But I digress. Lets go back to the leering at other ladies.

Here’s what you should know. Men have tunnel vision. They are able to see directly in front of them and over long distances but they have lousy close range and peripheral vision. This is why they cannot find the butter in the fridge or their towel in the cupboard when it’s under their nose. Women have a greater peripheral vision, which extends to at least 45 degrees to each side, above and below, which means they can appear to be looking at someone's face, when in fact they are inspecting their 'goods'! The reality is, that women check out men's bodies more than men check out women's, it's just that men's tunnel vision means they keep getting caught!!! So now you know!

I was recently on a gorgeous beach in Mallorca. It turned out to be a nudist beach and I have to say it was a real ‘eye opener’. I was easily able to check out everything on display without being observed and also watch other guys checking out each other and other women by literally craning their necks in the direction they were looking. They cannot help it.

We are all voyeurs to a certain extent. We are very interested in other human beings and obviously the opposite sex. In fact ‘people watching’ could easily become an Olympic sport. One strategy I have found useful over the years is to point out a good-looking woman first before your man even spots her. I was recently introduced to a very interesting game where each of you gives a member of the opposite sex a score according to their ‘fanciability factor’. Its lots of fun and you can also learn what turns your partner on. Now I am never going to have legs up to my armpits or become blonde overnight but if someone is with you, chances are its because they like virtually everything about you even the things they cannot change. So just for today, and because it sun shining and a perfect day for people watching, chill, and see if you can spot a gorgeous hunk or hunkess to daydream about.

Till tomorrow,

Love Francine

PS (The couples on the beach were Geri Halliwell and Henry Beckwith. But honestly - do we care??)!