Francine Kaye Blog
If your ex would not change to keep you; would not step up to the plate and take a look at their own role in the relationship too, then they will not change if you take them back.
I have 'A New Husband'. He came in a sealed pack, untouched by any female hand - virgin like in his tux, and apparently ready for exactly what I want him to be. Want to see him? Read on....
Do You Operate With Dignity? Do you remain dignified when facing 'the enemy'? Want to know how? Then read my blog...
Who do you turn to when the only person in the world that can stop you from crying, is exactly the one making you cry? Read my blog to find out!
Boy does life change After Divorce. To find out what works and what doesn't read my very frank blog.
What makes it delicious to be single and 50+?. Share my viewpoint and you might find some useful way to view your 'single' situation from a different perspective.
Love is a LightBulb Moment. Imagine cracking the love code. Thats exactly what Sarah did today with John. And it was amazing.
Do you fall in love at the drop of a hat or at least believe you are in love after only a few dates? Then the chances are you are just a little (or even completely) Addicted to Love.
What if, whenever your partner moans about money, criticises the kids, comes home tired and grumpy or argues about anything, all they really want is to have their request for love heard?
Who else wants to find a way to avoid Divorce? Tune into http://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/b011crw1/Shelagh_Fogarty_27_05_2011/
Scroll through to 38.40 minutes into the programme and hear how.
The Measure of A Man: Is the Age of Chivalry finally dead? It certainly appeared so to me when I had a disturbing experience yesterday in The Deer Park. Read my blog to find out more....
Listen for every unspoken request in your partners upsets. In each upset you’ll find a need that is not expressed, that cannot be articulated, but which is dying for its breath. Breath that will allow it to be heard.
My son is an Oscar Nominee!!! Read my blog to see how you can view his short film, but make sure you have a tissue or two ready.
Fancy a Friend With Benefits? You know some to get close and personal with and then say goodbye for a few weeks until you feel like hooking up again for some fun? Does it work? Read my blog to find out....
Have You Met your Prince or Princess Charming Yet? Read about a couple who have and how you can achieve your fairy tale ending....
Is Chocolate better than Sex? The list that appeared in my mail box puts forward a pretty good argument that it is! Read on to find out more and be prepared to smile :-)
Why you will never get over love and you don't have to. Exploding the myth of 'getting over it and getting on with your life'. Read my blog o find another way......
Love never dies. If you have loved, you will continue to love, long after your lover is with you and probably for the rest of your life.
It's your fault if you partner is controlling. A strong statement but true. Read my blog to find out why...
My ex-father-in-law 'travelled' in ladies underwear. I kid you not! And you'll never guess what we found in his wardrobe. Read my blog to find out.....
Its Spring people and I am pretty sure Love is In the Air. Don't believe me? Well read my blog to find out more.....
If you leave me now, you take away the biggest part of me'. Or so the song goes - but is it true? Do you really lose the biggest part of you? Read my blog to find out.
How to Make Love with 36 Women in One Day- yes it is possible! Want to find out more? Then read on.......
Imagine the Ultimate Revenge. Your husband/partner leaves you for a younger woman and so you go under the knife ending up even more beautiful than your replacement. Read on to find out how bizarre this gets.....
How do you think you make an Egyptian man happy? Read on to find out more about Love In a Different climate.....
Did you know that nothing is personal? There is No Plot Against You? Truly. Everything that happens is pure energy at work and energy is not personal. Want to find out more, then read the full blog.
When you have been married for 54 years and one of you is dying, how do you say goodbye to love?
Are you a Flexible Lover? Ok, I know what you are thinking and NO, I don’t mean being able to get your legs round your own neck, or any other bedroom gymnastics you may have in mind. Nor do I mean joining your local swinging group or having an open relationship!
Virtually all of the upset and pain in relationship is caused by expecting the other to love us back in return for us loving them to the best of our ability. So why doesn't this work? Read more to find out...
Is there an elegant way to reject an unsuitable suitor?
Is there a loving way to leave your lover?
Is there a definitive way to dump a date?
What are the rules for closing the door and saying goodbye? find out here....
So it was Valentine’s weekend (yes I know it’s today too!) and can you imagine a worse way of spending it as a single person than at a Couple’s workshop with 20 couples all committed to making their relationships work? Read on to find out about my Unfunny Valentine....
Just in case you were wondering where I had gone, I have been sitting on a mountain top carving out some basic rules for love. Well, not exactly on a mountain top, but I have been compiling a pre Valentines check list of 10 basic commandments for love that if you follow them on a daily basis, will provide you with a solid frame work for sustainable love. Want to know what they are? Well read on and I will reveal all:
Oh my goodness, Ashley Cole has been getting positive vibes from Cheryl and has allegedly asked her out on a date!
Does this mean that Cheryl would actually go back to the cheating husband that Ashley Cole turned out to be? Is she mad in the head or is it simply an Unfinished Relationship?
What unconscious agreements have you made in relationship that have allowed you to end up where you are now?
Well, I’ve just got back from the Lewes Wellness Fest. (Pronounced Lew-is, not Loos as I thought when I stopped to ask for instructions to the town hall.)
Actually, you could really call it the Lewes Love Fest as virtually every body attending and exhibiting totally loved their work and all their work was such a contribution that Love was In the Air for two full days.
So there I am walking along the Grand Union Canal with a very nice man, enjoying rare moments of sunshine and discussing the idea that a woman can have sex like a man.
Rob and Lisa had a difficult Christmas. She invited people he hates. He was monosyblic and drank too much cider. He bought her a new food mixer and she bought him a cashmere sweater. She felt unattractive and unseen, he felt trapped and withdrew even more.
Did you know that it’s actually a good thing when men don’t express themselves emotionally
Happy New Year and I hope that it will be your best ever. No matter where you happen to be right now, by the end of this year every thing in your life will look very different. Don’t believe me? Just for a moment, look back on this time last year.
Everybody’s taking ‘stuff’ back that somebody didn’t want. The car parks in the shopping centres are full of folks with bags filled with ‘refunds’. Easy isn’t it to take back things that you decide you have no use for. Swipe the ‘card you paid with it for’ and the money is back in your account.
Funny how you can’t do that with love though.
We all have rules for love. What are yours?
There is only one happiness in life - to love and to be loved - George Sand
Just for a moment take a look at your relationship or lack of one. Either way if you are in one, I’ll bet that it’s as good as the relationship you have with yourself and no better. If you are not in a relationship – the same applies. Both situations are reflections of the relationship you are having with yourself right now.
Its snowing - just in case you had a massive hangover from the office party and slept the day away. Now, the British are usually so good at this. In times of trouble and strife every man and his wife (or ex wife) is ready to lend you their shovel or if need be, help shovel you out of your snowy predicament. You’d think.
The Circular Dating concept is based on dating at least four people at one time. Now I know what you are thinking – ‘I don’t even have enough hours in the week for one date, let alone four’, but the reasoning behind it is that if you are seeing four different people, the chances of getting emotionally involved too quickly with any one person is alleviated.
n 1913, Blanche Ebbutt wrote a little book called ‘Don’t for Wives’. Her intention was to produce a book of suggestions from ‘an old hand’ (that would be Blanche), to give wives an idea of how to play the ‘wife’ game. For all of those ‘wives’ out there (even those’ wives’ who are not officially married but are ‘wives’ just the same) who are wondering why their ‘marriages’ may be on the rocks, here is a (debatably) outdated, selection of reasons why your relationship may be showing some wear and
You always have exactly the right partner for you. It may not seem like it right now, if things are less than rosy. And if you are not in a relationship right now, you may think, ‘I won’t read this because it doesn’t apply to me’, but read on because either way it does – I promise.
Love In A Cold Climate? Its cold out there and the thing is that it’s going to be quite a while till we experience anything like warm weather. So if you are single and ready for love, what will you need to do to keep the ‘fire of desire’ burning inside you?
There’s something so special about the Rapport of Real Love. If you have had it with someone, you will know it immediately.
When your life is in turmoil, in times of uncertainty and change, if your relationship ends or love seems like a distant memory; its not the circumstances, the situation or the people in your life that are responsible for your discomfort or unhappiness – it’s the thoughts you are having about what’s going on and the beliefs that you hold on to, that upset and frustrate you, or can make you feel like your heart is breaking.
Do you want to be right or do you want to be in relationship - you simply cannot have both and expect the relationship to last.
I know we hear about so many challenges that lie in wait for kids from divorced parents. Statistics show they are likely to do less well at school, suffer from anxiety problems, have difficulty making relationships and you can probably add many other ‘dis-ablements’ to the list. But I am here to tell you that it doesn’t have to be this way because I have just celebrated the proudest day of my life with my own son who was 5 years old when I divorced.
Does love depend on the age of the people in the relationship? Do you both have to have grown up in the same era watching the Wooden Tops or Camberwick Green to truly connect? What if you were born in a different decade, or many different decades apart, can love still survive or is it, even possible?
Relationships are imperfect and always will be for a very special reason.
What happened to meeting someone on a beach, or on a minefield (I kid you not!) or even in the aisle of your local supermarket?
Finally, I have discovered A New Way To Love that will is guaranteed to provide the most loving connection imaginable for you and your partner.
I had a very interesting conversation over the weekend. We were discussing ‘combative relationships’. This is where one person feels like they are in competition with the other.
Sometimes, just sometimes, we yearn for what was and how it might be again – if only
You know what’s amazing to me?
That so many men and women spend time in relationships that sap their energy. Instead of raising our levels of aliveness, these relationships are a constant drain on us and leave us running on empty.
Well, I just had an exhilarating hour with Kaye Adams at Radio Scotland. Should a divorced mother be allowed to move 19 hours away to a remote Scottish island with her new husband and take her kids away from their father.
Long Distance Dating
Are you ready to get out there and get dating again? If you are then this blog is for you.
Dating can be daunting if you are not prepared for it. This means that its important to have put enough time between the end of your previo...
Today I saved another relationship. Yes, I know that’s what I do but the enormity of helping a couple to rebuild their relationship never ever fails to humble and inspire me. For two people to let me in to their lives, allow me to take them on a ...
Are Prenuptial Agreements passion killers? Could you your ruin your romance by suggesting that your assets are more important than sharing your last bean with your partner?
This week, Cheryl came to see me with an age-old problem. She loves her man very much but he is distant and non-communicative. She says that physically they are really compatible but even then, its like he disconnects immediately after lovemaking and ...
If you are in the process of breaking up your relationship - Stop! Don’t do anything until you have read this.
As many of you know I am an ADR trained Family Mediator and Family Consultant and in that capacity last night I went to a pan...
When you fall out of ‘like’ with your partner, doesn’t it follow that sex is off the menu? And if you cannot fall in ‘like’ with a new partner, then once again, sex is off the menu.
So the moral of the story is that you ha...
On Thursday night this week, my best friend’s little granddaughter died peacefully in her sleep. She would have been 2 years old today. Her mummy and daddy who have one other little girl of 4 will need huge reserves of love and compassion for each ...
Mike phoned and told me that his wife had just said that to him. Doesn’t that sound like such a worn out cliché? It tells you nothing and probably everything about how your partner feels about you but what does it really mean?
When I work with indi...
Mike phoned and told me that his wife had just said that to him. Doesn’t that sound like such a worn out cliché? It tells you nothing and probably everything about how your partner feels about you but what does it really mean?
When I work with in...
Something happened to me over the weekend that made me realize how War is just the global equivalent of conflict in intimate relationships.
I went to the Imperial War Museum in London. Imperial means the ‘supreme authority on’, in this case,...
I love this question! It’s one I was asked just a few days ago and I have been pondering it and researching the answer. It turns out that the answer is like ‘how long is a piece of string’, but with emotions attached.
So because that&...
Are you thinking of leaving your relationship? Perhaps you have left and are wondering if you made the right choice or you or perhaps you are in the throes of separation and divorce with all the turmoil and uncertainty that brings.
Just for a moment cast...
Did you get the love you wanted this weekend? Did you dish out the compliments, attribute the appreciation and really reciprocate all the good stuff that came your way? Were you a Boomerang?
It only takes one person in the relationship to make the diffe...
So it’s official. My radio show is called ‘It Must Be Love Radio’! It’s what I am all about as The Divorce Doctor - healing your heart or your relationship whether you stay together or decide to part.
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Yes, I do mean ‘Ex’ as in Ex Partner, husband, boyfriend, girlfriend or whatever you want to call them, not the Simon Cowell show.
I had an email from *Stephanie who told me that her ex husbands new wife was living, what should have been, Ste...
Who hasn’t felt guilty at some point in their relationship?
When ‘Alison’ called me today, she said she was simply fed up of feeling guilty all the time. And last week, ‘Mike’ called me and said the very same thing. Guilt is an insidious emotion that can eat you up and leave you feeling torn apart as you move back and forth in turmoil.
Typically, men and women have different ways of playing out guilt.
There’s a big question to start off your day. In the light of the Wayne Rooney fiasco (really though!?) not to mention John Terry, Tiger Woods and Ashley Cole, (oh sorry I have), why do these men pay for sex? These guys have perfectly pleasant and ...
Well, it happens to all of us at some time. There you are minding your own business, (or in my case, mid twirl on the dance floor), and he or she shows up with their new partner, looking…. well looking just as they did. And time stands still. And your heart ends up in your stomach. And your legs almost give way.
Turn up or lower the volume, depending on how long ago it was, how much you thought you were over it, how much you still care, or how much you realize you don’t care in the slightest.
And because it happens to all of us at some time or another (and its rather useful it happens to me too because with the best will in the world, I am only human and it makes it even easier to empathise with all my clients going through the same stuff), there has to be strategies to cope with it PDQ as they say in the classics.
So think about it. Would it really work if you guys were back together again? You have to remember why you broke up in the first place. If you were the leaver – you had your reasons and they probably would resurface after a brief honeymoon period and if they left you – well you know what? That could happen again after the first flush of reunion and remember how that one hurt the first time around – its worse the second, third, fourth etc. Been there and done that? Then what are you thinking!!?
No, far better to put thoughts that don’t serve you in that nice filing cabinet in your mind labeled ‘Ex Files’. Go home, find something distractingly lovely to do that makes you feel good, have another drink, move away from the scene, ‘mind the gap’ and tell yourself that he or she is not worth it. Keep telling yourself that you deserve so much better – you know why? Because you do. You just have to believe it.
Whatever life takes away from you, let it go. Letting go of the past allows you to be fully alive in the moment. Holding on to the past keeps you stuck in a porridgy mess that keeps you weighed down. The truth is that you have no choice but to accept the reality that it’s over. If your ex is with someone else, then you have more than enough evidence that it’s over. And to resist reality is like telling it to stop raining because you forgot your umbrella.
No, there’s nothing for it but to hold on to your dignity. Tomorrow is a new day in your life – grab it with both hands. Your heart will heal, I promise and you too will live to love another day.
I have some fabulous ‘letting go strategies’ that I have personally tried and tested and so have hundreds of my clients, and they work. So if you are finding this really tough and know you would benefit from some support to help you to release, accept and let go effectively, whilst keeping your heart open, just call me to find out how you can get over your Ex and get on with your life.
Till tomorrow,
Love Francine
This is what a very wise man said to me late last night. We were discussing how to separate your emotions from situations, circumstances and being able to separate your emotions from your relationships so that you can really assess them with focus and cl...
Want to know the reason why it’s so difficult to get over a broken relationship, whether you are the leaver or the levee? The reason is contained in one six-letter word that is probably the most powerful in our whole vocabulary. Belief.
Yesterday was Bank Holiday Saturday (as you know) and I spent early afternoon walking round my favourite lake near where I live in the sunshine. There were lots of couples hand in hand enjoying the sunshine and it was all very warm and lovely.
Engrossed in listening to John Welwood (Perfect Love Imperfect Relationships – highly recommended) on my iPod, I was caught unawares by a lady behind me who said loudly ‘are you that woman from the Wright Stuff’? Now this does not often happen to me, so I turned round in surprise (removed my earplugs) and said ‘yes!” And she said ‘oh good, then you can sort out an argument that we are having’ and she pointed to her partner who was sitting on a log, looking a bit sheepish.
Well, I wasn’t quite sure what to do. This did not seem the most professional of environments especially as I had previously slipped in the mud and my right trouser leg was covered in nasty stuff. But unable to leave a couple in distress, I graciously enquired what the problem was and if they ‘both’ wanted to solve it. Having got both their permission we all perched on the log together and the woman began.
She said they’d been going out for three years and he said, ‘no, I think its only about 2 and a half years’ and she said ‘you see, this is exactly what happens. Whatever I say, he corrects me’. Then he said, ‘that’s because she exaggerates and I have a better memory than her and I think it’s important, if you are going to say something to say it right’. Then she said ‘it doesn’t matter if it’s not exactly right, it’s his patronizing attitude that makes me feel like I’m stupid or something’. And there it is in a nutshell.
You may not be any the wiser right now, but let me explain. This is a common communication problem.
When our partner says something that causes our emotional temperature to rise it’s because a past association has triggered us. It could be something from way back during childhood or early adulthood, but it’s a place, situation or circumstance where something similar has happened and we had felt unable to defend ourselves or articulate our feelings because either we believed it wasn’t safe to, we thought it may cause further upset; it could cause us pain; we would not have known how to articulate what we were feeling anyway, or any other variation that would lead to an unpleasant consequence for us. So, when our partner presses our ‘emotional buttons’ and we react either defensively or from a place of self righteousness or indignation, you can be sure that we are associating what has been said, or done, with something we were unable to deal with effectively in the past.
So here is today’s thought for you. Anytime your ‘buttons’ are pressed for the next week, and your emotional temperature starts to rise, ask yourself, ‘what does this remind me of? What happened in my life to create this trigger? Take some time to think it through.
When I work with couples and individuals who are challenged in their communication, this is a vital key in uncovering how they react to each other when they get triggered and how much of what is actually said is often misinterpreted as each partner goes back into old associations. If this sounds familiar, get in touch and lets talk about it (in a way that is ‘trigger free’ of course!) and you can receive my Miracle Communication Skills which are guaranteed to change the way you talk and listen in all you relationships.
Have a great bank holiday, and I may even blog again tomorrow.
Love Francine
Isn’t it just typical that when you think you are getting over your ex, something pops up to remind you of them when you least expect it and you realize that you cannot separate yourself completely?
Being in a relationship means that you make memor...
Sarah contacted me to talk about her latest dating disaster and ask me why it seems like she is always attracted to the ‘wrong’ kind of guys.
Once again, the guy she had been dating for several months messed her about, didn’t call when he said he would, borrowed money ‘because he didn’t want to use his cash?!?’ and generally led her a merry dance. I asked her how many guys like this she had been attracted to and she said ‘at least three’. Well you know what, we have a pattern going on here and Sarah is the common denominator.
Sarah is putting something out there that draws the wrong guys to her like a magnet. She isn’t the only one. And its not just females that get it all wrong. You guys have the same attractor factor buttons that when pressed; attract some exceptionally incompatible women towards you.
So why does this happen. Probably because you didn’t really know what you wanted in the first place. You were blinded by great ‘packaging’ (in Sarah’s case ‘a great kisser’) and I have no doubt that you’d probably spend more time creating a shopping list than you did creating your ‘great date’ list.
So if you want to save yourself time and upset, you’ll be interested to know that one of the main areas we look at when you work with me to find a new mate is ‘the selection process’.
The mantra is ‘Never Neglect to Properly Select’. Poor selection will lead to disappointments of all kinds and yet very few people take heed of this warning.
Here’s a question for you if you are back on the dating scene or at least thinking of it. Do you know what kind of partner you are looking for? Are you looking for a long term, a short term or a ‘friends with benefits’ type relationship? These are the first question to ask yourself and questions that Sarah told me she had never even thought about. She said, ‘don’t you just play it by ear and see what happens?’
Well, that’s one way of doing it. And you’ll get what you get. If you know what you want, you have a far better chance of attracting someone who has similar ideas to you and, whilst at the start of any relationship, of course you both will have to play it by ear in terms of connections, communication and fun, at least you’ll know where you want it to go if its working. Any one who knows about the physics of the ‘attraction’ process will tell you that when you want something, and you have a strong feeling about it inside that it’s what you really want; if you combine your desire with the belief that you deserve to have it, and you even know what it will feel like when you get it, you will attract it into your life. Think about anything you have right now that you really wanted and you’ll notice that the process is exactly the one you followed before it arrived.
So that’s the first step. The second is to find out on the first and second dates, when the other person is not as invested in the relationship as they might be further along the line, what they want. Men and women are more likely to reveal themselves early in the relationship because there isn’t any emotional investment yet. The subtle, but leading questions you will ask are available in my ‘From First Date to Soul Mate’ coaching programme. In this explicit programme I’ll show you how to define exactly what’s important to you in relationship and find out from your prospective partner what’s important to them without sounding like you are interviewing them! That’s no mean feat but one that is easily accomplished with the right skills to hand.
Its so important to find out as early as possible if the person you are dating is a match for you otherwise, like Sarah you will experience dating disasters that take some time to recover from. And that’s not to say that every date that doesn’t work out is a disaster. You may well meet some great people who become wonderful friends. It simply means that neither you nor they will waste time or emotions if you both want different things.
I’d love to help you in your selection process to find the right mate for you. It’s a short programme that delivers! If you are ready make your dates great, just call me to find out more.
Till tomorrow,
Love Francine
I had a client say to me that she really regretted staying in her marriage for so long and putting up with behaviors, and situations that her husbands presented her with for over 25 years.
I asked her, I said ‘what allowed you to put up with it for...
So yesterday I showed you the Times OnLine Article about Mr. Osmau Tomiya, a professional "Splitter Upper".
This has to be the wildest and most jaw dropping story about what some people call ‘honey traps’ that I have ever read and because I don’t want you to miss a word
Oh dear, I am so sorry but I made a mistake. It happens to all of us at one time or another and it’s interesting because I have noticed how hard it is for people to admit their mistakes. It’s a fact that being human comes with a guarantee of slipping up, falling down and getting into all kinds of messy stuff in between. It’s going to happen.
*Pete phoned for his session. He’s been dating after his 12-year relationship came to an end and the lady he was seeing ended it two weeks ago after three months.
On Saturday I ran out of petrol. Have you ever done that? Rarely I imagine. Luckily, a knight in shining amour turned up in a white van to rescue me.
So you think you are absolutely right and justified to feel the way you do about your partner’s behaviour.
Right this minute, the very last thing in the world you may feel like doing is dancing with your partner or spouse.
I promised *Vicky that I would show her strategies that would help her rebuild her trust in Steve but she was skeptical.
Ever heard of Toyboy Warehouse? No? Well you have now. And guess what? I know the owner and she’s a fabulous 40 something woman who just happens to enjoy dating younger fit guys who prefer a more sophisticated woman.
So what’s your story then? What’s the story about your partner (or your ex) this weekend?
“I wish I had not got from my mother, or my father was it, the need to grasp and be grasped, because it drives me into the arms of idiots who want to crush me. Wonderful, idiotic crushing in the night. Can’t you just crush me in the night?”
Trust me, yearning for someone (or even something) you cannot have, reaps no pleasurable rewards ever. If there is nothing you can do about it, then honestly?
Would you be willing to get very hot and sweaty for the sake of love?
Well, what an interesting week and weekend. In my quest to delve deeper in the questions and challenges you have around love and relationships I visited the Miracle Café in Covent Garden last Thursday.
So, Alice* wrote to me on Saturday morning desperate for some answers. Divorced 5 years ago she hadn’t really gotten her head round the ‘dating thing’.
The news is that Lenny Henry and Dawn French are splitting up. Bel Mooney reports in the Daily Mail that they will remain ‘Best Friends’.
Don’t let anyone tell you differently. When you’re feeling less than chirpy your friends are the ‘Central Perk’ in your life.
In yesterday’s Daily Mail, the wonderful Diana Appleyard reported that she and her husband had taken separate holidays this year as they both have very different ideas of summer bliss.
Yesterday I opened a book. Not just any old book mind you. It was the first book I ever studied when beginning my work as a counselor. It’s by Carl Rogers and called ‘On Becoming a Person’.
Which was, in fact, the first question of the week from a person who had decided that the weekend was the beginning of the end of her relationship.
Can you forgive an affair? What would have to happen in order for you to forgive your partner’s affair and rebuild your trust?
Well we’ve all had them. Those nights when its 2.45am and you are still wide awake with your mind buzzing. The body is so willing to sleep but the mind?
This is one of the questions I ask my clients going through relationship issues.
To explain! Tennis Ace Chris Evert and Golf Legend Greg Norman have split up and the size of their respective ‘balls’ has much to do with it.
So how was your weekend? What did you do? Or more to the point, ‘What did you Say and to Whom?
My mother has always recommended taking a walk whenever you are feeling less than buoyant. But this is not any old walk. It’s a very specific type of walk. This is a ‘Blow Through’.
Well, I’d be surprised if you consciously chose pain, but the fact is that everyday many people are choosing pain instead of pleasure because they don’t believe they have a choice.
He may have played the improbable role in the film but for sure Mel Gibson has emerged once again as a racist and a bully and clearly a person who does not care ‘what women want’ and dislikes not being able to get the better of them.
So what to do? Firstly learn quickly how to spot these types. These are people who have been so hurt by past experiences that even though they long for love, they totally believe it will provide them with even more pain at some point in the not to distant future.
Just before you get your hands dirty and plunge into your bins to find buried treasure, please read on. Its really not necessary for you to go to those lengths to find the greatest gift that we all have available to ourselves right now, regardless of our situations or circumstances.
I am just about to reveal how I made love for 14 full hours over the weekend in a hot hotel in London. I’m hoping that this is not too much information for a Monday morning. So, before you choke on your cornflakes, you should know that it was all in the interest of helping you guys reclaim the love for yourself and your relationship, I promise!
Are you wondering whether your relationship has any more mileage in it? Are you bickering about virtually everything? Do you believe you have fallen ‘out of love’? Before you make any life changing decisions, just Stop! Read this first.
Do you believe that the majority of people make the choices they do in life because of some compelling vision for a better future?
If I'm such a legend, then why am I so lonely? Let me tell you, legends are all very well if you've got somebody around who loves you." Judy Garland
Yesterday on a beautiful beach in St Tropez something happened that virtually every woman alive will relate to.
It was the most gorgeous sunny weekend but are you glad its Monday morning so you can return to work or your usual routine? Each week I speak to men and women who have spent very lonely weekends and are happy it’s over. You, like me, know exactly how that feels, so what’s the one trick for weekends alone that always works? Plan Ahead!
This is the question I was asked today by a client of 32 who simply cannot find herself a really great guy? And I think I have part of the answer.
When you are going through the process of coming to terms with a separation from your partner, whether you are the leaver or the levee, some days will be tougher than others.
Do you feel a bit sorry for yourself right now? Do you believe all the books (including mine) that tell you its important to really ‘feel’ your feelings on the basis that what you can feel you can heal?
Well I have a suggestion for you to hel...
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24th June 2010
Why is it that Saturday night is the worst night to be single? Every other night is easily over come. It’s easy to handle Monday through Friday. We see our friends, go to work events, the gym, go to all kinds of classes, do stuff with our kids and of course get an early night if we have a heavy work schedule.
The 40-year itch: Divorce is falling in every age group except the over-60s - so why ARE so many couples splitting after a lifetime together?
Click here to read more at the Daily Mail online
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11th June 2010
Did John Terry wake up one morning and think “how can I really hurt my wife today? – I know I’ll sleep with her close friend and to make it a double whammy, I’ll make sure it’s the ex girlfriend of my best mate and team playe...
The BBC in Gloucestershire were informed of the second 'Swan Divorce' in 40 years. It must be the time of year if even the Swan's are at it. Sadly I was not able to speak to either of the Swans involved, but here is their story.
Experts have told of thei...
Just back from a live slot on GMTV at 6.13am! Well it was supposed to be 6.45am but just as I got up at 4.40am I received a text message saying be in the cab in 15 minutes. This does not work so well for me, but clean and slightly damp, I duly jumped in t...
Its late but I had to write and inform you of some incredible statistics out today. Its big news in the wake of ‘D’ Day - (Divorce Day) which takes place on the first Monday in January. This is the official day that the greatest number of peop...
It’s not ‘the season to be merry’ any more. The lawyers are calling me to help them with very angry men whose women have handed them their ‘resignation’ as wives. If you are an angry man (you know who you are), you are not al...
