Well, it happens to all of us at some time. There you are minding your own business, (or in my case, mid twirl on the dance floor), and he or she shows up with their new partner, looking…. well looking just as they did. And time stands still. And your heart ends up in your stomach. And your legs almost give way.
The question is if you love – does that defy logic? If your child were a serial killer, would you still love him? If your wife gets you deep into debt and you lose everything – do you still love her? Logic and rationale would tell you that these behaviours are unacceptable so how come your heart may still be open to those who hurt you in any way?
Want to know the reason why it’s so difficult to get over a broken relationship, whether you are the leaver or the levee? The reason is contained in one six-letter word that is probably the most powerful in our whole vocabulary. Belief.
When our partner says something that causes our emotional temperature to rise it’s because a past association has triggered us.
Isn’t it just typical that when you think you are getting over your ex, something pops up to remind you of them when you least expect it and you realize that you cannot separate yourself completely?